Onwards To The Next Phase

Yesterday it hit us: our batch of friends are getting married. Just because this is the first time we're helping out (if only just a bit) with the wedding. So instead of just appreciating a usual wedding dinner from the audience's POV (dine, wine, the yamseng, and leaving after dessert), participating in the machinations of tradition, custom and religion made us a bit more aware that it's no longer our elder siblings/relatives who're getting married, but it's friends around our level who're tying the knot.

Don't know if we're making our point clear here. It's just that we're all moving into the next phase in life where marriage is no longer a joshing subject but a viable option. And oh, the options: simple registration, no dinner? Whatever will both parents think? Small ceremony with just close family and friends? Who's invited? Mixed religion, what kind of wedding ceremony will be held? The full traditional monty, or pick the bits that you like?

Already today when the gang of zhi muis (with Snoopy giving rather wicked ideas) were planning on questions, tasks and foodstuffs the groom and his heng tai has to go through before he gets to meet the bride in her room, the mindstorming already had us repeatedly telling the girls, "I'm never getting married!"

To which we gets the reply, "Elope-lah!" Hmmm. We'll have to know the correct places first, if it ever comes to that.

Of course, we're not saying that we find the whole process too much. After all, if the groom can't get through the tasks (which the zhi muis do make sure that is certainly doable and nothing that has never been done during the college/uni years) then the bride ought to think twice, no? Eloping doesn't mean we wouldn't experience this as a member of the heng tai posse as well.

Yeah, marraige - big step.

Anyways, congrats to 3SM and hubby. You've already started, so onwards with the next great big adventure together. Late congratulations ya.